For most people the act of talking during sex is quite
intimidating. Usually a person is afraid they'll say the wrong thing and kill
the mood, or reveal a little too much about their desires. If you're willing
to overcome this fear you will find that an aural addition can incredibly
heighten the sensual stimulation you're both receiving. Many couples write in
asking how can they add this enhancement to their current relationship. Here
are a few pointers.
First, be sincere. Nothing can kill the mood faster
than scripted verse. Be honest about what you are saying and feeling. Your
partner will definitely be able to notice if you're not.
Talk about
what you are feeling. This is an easy way to segue into verbal foreplay. If
something feels good, tell your partner, and be specific about it. If you
like it when they do something make sure to let them know.
Talk about
what you would like. Take to heart the old saying, "If you ask for it you
just might get it." Tell your partner what you enjoy. (For example, "I like
it when you..." or "Do it like...")
Tell a fantasy. Open up a bit and
tell your partner one of your fantasies. This can be a great turn on
especially if you're whispering into their ear while you're making
love.
Act out a character role. Sometimes being yourself can be
intimidating. One way to get around that is to act in character. There are
many role-playing options such as doctor/nurse, slave/master,
teacher/student, cop/robber, etc. You may find it easier to approach verbal
arousal while in character.
Remember, if you're uncomfortable doing
something, just don't do it.
When you are ready here are a few suggestions of phrases
that others would enjoy hearing from their partners.
Their name I
love you I love being inside of you If I could to choose how to die, I'd
want this to be last thing I ever felt. You are fantastic, you drive me
insane, and I cannot get enough of your love. You're beautiful. You feel
wonderful. Oooh baby that feels so good! God you're incredible I am
your slave! I wish everyday could be like this.